Finding out your partner has cheated on you is never good news, but it can be especially painful if you felt you were in a happy relationship and had no reason to doubt they would be faithful.
But you shouldn’t torture yourself with the idea that they were secretly unhappy, as this may not be the case.
“Even people in generally good quality relationships can be tempted to cheat,” explains Relate counsellor Martin Burrow.
And with statistics revealing 20% of adults in the UK have had an affair and over 30% have considered cheating, it is clear that thinking of infidelity as only a problem for miserable couples would be wrong.
Sarah Ryan, director of matchmaking agency Simantov International, who has done extensive research in this area, agrees: “If someone has the inclination to go astray, no matter how happy a home they live in, they will do so.”
